About Me

My Story

My story is like any other typical Asian American. I graduated with good grades in high school and went to a famous university where my parents expected me to start my career path towards becoming a doctor. Unhappy with the classes I had to take (*cough* physics), I switched out of Biological Sciences to Public Health Sciences in my third year. However, there was a critical moment back in my first year, after my first quarter, where I had thought about switching to English or Creative Writing or something in the Fine Arts field. Except, I was too afraid of disappointing my parents, of losing their love and approval, and of failing because I was selfish and didn’t listen to them. I was also brainwashed into thinking, at the time, that a Bachelor in Arts was less of an achievement than a Bachelor of Sciences.

After graduating, I was networked into becoming a Health Interpreter, a job where you “translate,” or interpret, between English and another language for doctors and patients in the hospital who cannot communicate to each other because they do not share a common language. Upon failing the final test, I could not envision myself being in that position for all of the money it offered. Next, I became certified as a personal trainer to try to make use of my university degree. When I quit my job nearly a month after, I was relieved but sad. I told myself that if the next job failed me, I would finally pursue my passion. 

A year later, after being a tutor and teacher where I loved working with the kids I had, but hated the stress, unrealistic expectations, and constant bombardment of immature behavior, comments, and the hours of workload that didn’t equate to the money I was being paid, I quit too. The administrator job I had in the morning also didn’t bode well with me anymore. I no longer wanted to be paid to do dead, boring, meaningless, and soul-killing work. Money is nice, being paid to do easy work is great. However, when your heart and soul feels empty doing it, when you feel unfulfilled doing it, no amount of money–at least to me, could get me to wake up and drive to work anymore.

Constantly, I revisited the memory of my first year in university about switching majors and wondered if I had made that decision then, where would I be now? Why did I make that mistake? Why had I been scared? Then it dawned on me that it was now or never. I didn’t want to repeat the mistakes of my past again, especially not now. 

Micromanaging, health bills, anxiety — enough.

I listened to videos after videos from motivational speaker Prince Ea about quitting jobs you hate because it is a waste of your time, health, happiness, and potential and I cried. I didn’t want to be a bird whose wings were clipped and my worth, value, and potential be lost, undiscovered, or never fulfilled. I didn’t want to be on my deathbed, wondering “what if?” And I didn’t want to live an unhappy life where I kept returning to a job I hated and dreaded. Some would call me ungrateful for quitting these jobs when other people are having a hard time finding employment…and maybe you’re right. However, this is how I want to live my life now. 

Growing up, I had a love for reading. I read books such as the Little House on the Prairie series, Judy Blume, The Ramona series, Harry Potter, and the Series of Unfortunate Events. As an Asian American who grew up with no real Asian role models, I began asking important questions such as why are there no Asians in the media and the books I hungrily and passionately consumed? Am I beautiful? That was until I began turning to YouTube in my early teenage years. I love writing and discussing the Asian American experience, and I owe that to my inspirations and role models YouTubers: LeendaDProductions, NigaHiga, WongFuProductions, Richie Le, and TheFungBrothers and later on Gina Darling, HyuneeEats, Stephanie Soo. These creators, whether they intended to or not, have each helped make some progress in the Asian American movement and I want to be a part of it. 

I am a girl with big, ambitious dreams. And what I want most right now is to make sure these dreams no longer remain as just mere dreams anymore. I want to live it in my reality. 

What do I dream of becoming one day? I want to be a talk show host, a screenwriter, an author, a comedian, and much more. More importantly, I want to write and represent the Asian American community. 

It would be such an honor to be sitting across legends such as Whoopie Goldberg on The View one day and have a seat at that table to offer a voice for the Asian American community. It would be insane to see my script turned into a movie and be nominated for an Oscar. And it would incredibly moving to finally hold a solid book in my hands.

So come join me as I share my thoughts and experiences about Asian American topics; display my love for the Japanese culture via my analysis of certain anime titles; and try my humor in my Life category here on my blog. And let’s see if I can finally stop dreaming and wake up in reality having achieved these desires.

Why is this blog called “Talk with Donuts”?

As a child, I was always teased for my last name and I hated it because other last names weren’t so easy to make fun of. But it eventually grew on me and now I just love it and want to share my newfound pride in my name with the world.

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