The 75+ Lessons You Should Know Before Dating: Comprehensive Lessons List

Here is the list of ALL the dating lessons we have covered so far (they are divided into parts for your convenience):

Part 1

  1. Evaluate Yourself Before You Date
  2. You Are Special
  3. Have Standards
  4. Love Yourself BEFORE Dating
  5. It’s Okay to Be Alone

Part 2

  1. Be You
  2. Leave Anyone Who Cannot Accept You For You
  3. Have a Healthy Attitude About Relationships and Love
  4. Have a Healthy Mindset Too
  5. The Person You Will Date/Have a Relationship with is a Person
  6. Do Not Fall for the Fake Online Dating/Relationship Tips and Advice of So-Called “Gurus”
  7. Love is Not like Disney, Rom-Coms, or Any Romantic Novels/Movies
  8. There is No “The One”
  9. Dating is a Numbers Game
  10. Beware of Bad People
  11. Patience is Important

Part 3

  1. Do Not Compare Your Dating Timeline to Others
  2. There’s Nothing Wrong with Being Single; Learn and Have Fun as You Date
  3. There’s No Right Way to Date
  4. Lists Are Important
  5. NEVER Ignore Red Flags
  6. Trust Your Gut
  7. Have a Clear Idea of What You Want, but Do Not Go Out of Your Way to Get It

Part 4

  1. Try to Deal with Your Inner Demons First Before You Start Dating
  2. Get Rid of the Savior Mentality
  3. Do Not Date Someone Who Is Not Over Their Ex
  4. Do Not Let Yourself Be Compared to Your Date’s Ex
  5. Pay Attention to How Your Date Talks About Their Ex
  6. There’s a Difference Between Having Mental/Emotional/Traumatic/Physical Baggage and Just Unfortunate Events Happening to You
  7. Your Childhood Worldview WILL Affect Your Dating Life
  8. Know Your Own Insecurities Before Dating
  9. No One is Perfect. Even You.

Part 5

  1. Never Change Your Boundaries For Anyone
  2. KNOW Your Worth AND Purpose
  3. Do NOT Let Others Control or Pressure You Because YOU Have to Deal with the Results
  4. You Can Judge Someone and Their Character by How They Act When They Are Angry
  5. Understand and Figure Out the Difference Between Value and Cherish Versus Attraction and Lust
  6. Know the Difference Between Having Kindness/Empathy/Compassion Versus Being a Doormat
  7. If Someone Did Something / Said Something Hurtful to You and Said “Just Kidding” to Downplay Your Reaction or Their Actions/Wrongdoing, Leave Them
  8. There is a Difference Between Conceding and Compromising
  9. Do NOT Ever Compromise Early, ESPECIALLY If You’re Not Official Yet
  10. There is a Difference Between Compromise and Compatibility
  11. Be Careful with Emotional Manipulators and/or Gaslighters

Part 6

  1. If You Have to Use or Have Sex to Make Sure the Date Ends Well, That’s Not a Healthy Relationship and You’ve Just Been Used. Please Leave.
  2. Don’t Try to Be Someone You’re Not
  3. Getting Attached After Sex Might Actually Be a Real Thing
  4. There is No Such Thing as Losing or Taking Away Virginity. You Just Had Sex. That’s It.
  5. How Sex Is Used Between Genders MAY Be Different
  6. If You’re Looking For Something Meaningful and For a Real Connection, Don’t Sleep with Your Date Right Away
  7. Be Careful with Lust

Part 7

  1. Know the 3 G’s to Sex: Good, Giving, and Game
  2. Good Sex Takes Time, Patience, Communication, and Practice. If Your Partner is Not Patient During Sex, Leave Their Selfish Behind.
  3. If You Consented to Having Mutual Sex, You Should Not Be Used As If You Are Someone’s Sex Toy
  4. Dating Has Double Standards: Giving Sex Out Early May Mean Your Date Won’t Take You Seriously
  5. Be Careful with Friends with Benefits Relationships / Arrangements
  6. Do Not Go Back to Your Date’s Place on the First Date (or First Few)
  7. If They Don’t Wear A Condom or Show You Some Paperwork–Get Out of There!

Part 8

  1. Be Careful on Online Dating Apps
  2. Pay for Your Half on the First Date
  3. (Try to) Keep First Dates Short
  4. Watch Your Mental State/ Thoughts During Dating
    1. Figure Out Why You Are Dating
    2. Chase versus Pursue
    3. Regret Is Worse Than Rejection
    4. No One, I Repeat, NO ONE is Out of ANYONE’S League

Part 9

  1. Do Not Ever Try to Persuade or Give Your Date Reasons to Keep You Around
  2. Do Not Ever Go On Internet Forums or Search Engines and Type in What Your Dating Preferences Might Like
  3. Anyone Who Does Not Like You For You or For Your Interests is Not Compatible with You; Therefore, They Have No Purpose or Value to Remain in Your Life
  4. Be Careful of Your Aura On Dates
  5. Watch Your Insecurities

Part 10

  1. Expect Rejection; Don’t Think Every Date Will Go Well
  2. Do Not Have ANY Expectations Going Into the Date
  3. Be Careful with Falling in Love with What You Want to See Rather Than What You Actually Have in Front of You
  4. On the Flip Side, Do NOT Try to Force Someone to Become Who You Want Them To Be
  5. Be Careful of Someone’s Virtual Persona versus their Real-Life Persona
  6. Actions Speak Louder Than Words
  7. Do Not Make Excuses. It Is What It Is.
  8. When Someone Shows You Who They Are the First Time, BELIEVE Them!
  9. A “Successful” Career Does NOT Mean Emotional Maturity or Good Character